You don’t realize how words from a parent may set in your mind. Until once they have slipped passed the lips and onto the child.
Last week as I was laying in the hospital, a nurse had come in to check my vitals. As I watched the nurse asked me what my heritage was and I quietly answered Persian. He said that explains your beautiful eyes. Of course my mom sits up suddenly and says I wonder why people say this to you- I have never noticed your eyes as anything unique, but then I guess I have known you all your life.
Now I think back on this conversation and I wonder why my mom would even say this. I really do not understand if my eyes are unique, but it has been told to me many times. And then I was thinking about the little quirps she would make as I was growing up: how I had no neck, how my hair was wild and woolley (which it is) how I was short etc etc. All these little things as a small child somehow do not leave the mind. And even though I am grown up now I felt as a little child again last week when she said this.
Then it made me ponder if there are things I say that may hinder my kids’ self esteem. I pray not, but I started doubting myself.
I know moms make mistakes, but what are the lasting mistakes that stick with child until they are old adults like myself.