Humans are the most interesting of species. We have the ability to determine our future, analyze the past, and make conscious decisions based on sensory input. The study of human behavior is wide and extensive. That said, when we interact with other human beings in a romantic sense, we often get it wrong and sometimes very wrong. We often repeat the same mistakes over and over again and we seem powerless to learn from them. Yet occasionally we get it very right and we form a connection with another human being that can potentially last a lifetime. Why we click with one and not another is one of the great mysteries of life and one that is not easily answered.

As a therapist of many years of experience, I have been involved with many couples who have been in crisis, trying desperately to hold on to what was. Trying to…